So you've learned about the Law of Attraction. Every day, you visualize what you want, repeat positive affirmations, and stare at your vision board. But after doing all this faithfully for months or even years, you still fail to manifest. Why?

There's another school of thought to simply surrender your desires to the creator, what spiritual author Tosha Silver calls "Offering." Ask for the Universe's guidance, let go, and look for breadcrumbs to follow. If you don't get an answer, keep asking until you do.

But what if you've tried this too and still don't get what you want?

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Manifesting vs. Surrendering 

Manifesting can go wrong if we push too hard to make the ego's wishes come true instead of our soul's calling. Obsession and control energy, expecting things to happen in a certain timeline, and being too reliant on the outcome to be happy can set us back.

By surrendering, we let go, but many people may interpret this as being passive, which is not what Tosha Silver teaches. Instead, she says, Offering is when "the right actions begin to flow through you, rather than by you."

In manifesting, you're sending out the intention and using your imagination to live in the wish fulfilled—embodying the identity of someone who already has it. Surrendering is not forgetting about the desire. It's simply relaxing and letting it come to you.

Here are some reasons why your desires might have been blocked from being manifested so far.

What Can Prevent You From Manifesting

Time 

You might want something to happen now, but things are happening behind the scenes that you can't see. It will find you when you're ready. If you're always checking when it's going to happen, it would be like constantly digging out a seed to see if it's growing. Time offers the opportunity to prepare yourself to properly receive.

Too Attached to the Outcome

If you ever think manifesting a particular person or situation is your ticket to eternal happiness, you're likely setting yourself up for disappointment. It keeps you stuck in lack and waiting mode. There is a Law of Paradoxical Intent that says the more desperate you are to have something, the more you'll push it away.

The Desires is Not Strong Enough

Sometimes we are wishy-washy about what we want. It would be helpful to do some exploration of why you want this. Is it what your soul truly wants, or is it what other people want for you?

Not Taking Action When Intuition Calls

Yes, you still need to take action to make your dreams happen, but not reactive action out of fear that you must do this or that or it's not going to happen. Intuitive action will simply be a natural expression of your wish fulfilled. If your goal is to be physically fit, you're not going to be sitting on the couch waiting for your muscles to grow. When you're embodied in the identity of a fit person, you will simply want to work out or play sports to get in better shape. The action happens through you. What you need to do will naturally come to you.

Lack of Accountability 

Suppose you want to manifest a million dollars but are currently running away from paying your bills, you're showing yourself and the universe that you can't be trusted to handle a lot of money responsibly. When you're not ready to receive something, a blessing can become a curse. For example, you might have heard of people who found that winning the lottery was the worst thing that ever happened to them. Be accountable so that you can be trusted as a positive vessel for more good things to come.

Lack of Generosity 

When you receive money, do you hold on to it tightly out of a scarcity mindset? You don't need to give away everything you earn, but remember that generosity attracts abundance. This isn't limited to money—sharing positive energy, genuinely wishing others well instead of feeling envious, and showing kindness can have a powerful impact. Be generous with yourself too. For example, are you still feeding yourself cheap junk food, or are you nourishing yourself with healthy food?

Old Karma and Vows

Exploring past lives can help you understand why you might feel blocked in certain areas. Perhaps in a previous life, you had what you desired, but it led to a destructive outcome. Many of us have also made vows in our Akashic Records that seemed like a good idea in past lives. For example, taking a vow of poverty to participate in certain religions. That old vow can impede our current life's desire to be wealthy. Personality, I discovered some time ago I had made a vow in a past life to live a humble life. While vows like that sound noble, they can block manifesting more wealth and abundance, so it's better to remove those vows.

Your Current Situation Benefits You

Perhaps your current job is miserable but it pays well and you can't imagine anything better. Perhaps complaining about your pain and suffering elicits sympathy and attention from others. Your desire to manifest your dream outcome must be greater than whatever is benefiting you in your current situation for you to be motivated to change.

Not in the Same Vibration as the Goal

We attract what is in our frequency. If what we want is on a higher frequency, then we focus on matching it. This includes releasing fears, doubts, blockages, and old patterns and programming getting in the way.

How to Manifest

Make a list of what you want. For each goal, get specific on what it will look like in your life and how you feel to already have it.

If you feel doubt or unease about achieving certain desires, look into those feelings because they'll give clues to your blockages. Do you actually want to manifest this goal? Do you think it's impossible to have it? Do you feel unworthy of it?

Once you're aware of your blockages, you can remove them. Since I'm an intuitive healer, I can remove my own negative beliefs quickly using the healing modalities I'm certified in. If you're not a trained healer, you can read my post on 7 energy healing methods because there are some methods you can learn and use on your own, such as the Quantum Breakthrough Code.

Removing blockages is part of the spiritual work of earning what you desire, building that vessel to receive it, and feeling deserving of it.

You should know exactly what you want to manifest. Feel as if you already have it.

***Updated manifestation technique based on Neville Goddard's teachings:

Create a short scene where you already have the end result. Visualize it in the first person and bring in the 5 senses. Keep visualizing this for several days or when it feels real. When you really believe this will come to fruition, you can stop visualizing but continue to embody the state of the wish fulfilled. For example, walking around as if you already have it. This helps you step into your new identity as the person who has it.

Every time doubt creeps in, train your mind to keep it focused on what you do want. Assume it is already in your reality. Don't try to micromanage how it'll happen. It might come in ways you least suspect.

Let go of the concept of time. That said, if I don't manifest something after six months or I'm not taking important steps getting there, I'd look deeper into what other blockages I may have or what else I need to learn about this to allow it to come into my life.

When Else to Surrender or Use Offering

I use Tosha Silver's concept of Offering when I'm not completely clear on exactly what I want. I'll Offer so I can receive more clues and nudges from the universe on what to do.

To learn more about Offering, I recommend reading Tosha Silver's books. A good one to start with is Outrageous Openness.

Manifesting Checklist

If you're serious about manifesting something, here's what to do for it to have a real chance of becoming a reality in your life.

• What you want is for your highest good.
• Know exactly what you want and how your life will look like after having it.
• Major blockages and pending negative karma are cleared.
• Feel worthy and deserving of receiving it, that it's possible for you to have it.
• Able to visualize and feel what it's like to have this without doubts or fears.
• Feeling happy and grateful for your life even if your goal hasn't manifested yet.
• Be in the same high vibration as the thing you want to manifest.
• Listen to your intuition to know which inspired action to make your goals a reality—and then take action.
• Stay in the state of the wish fulfilled.

If something doesn't manifest within two to six months or you haven't taken important steps to get there:

• Check for any more doubts, fears, and blockages.
• It might not be time yet.
• ...or maybe it did show up, but you didn't have the consciousness to recognize it because it appeared in a different way than expected.

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